Are you stuck in a holding pattern with that one annoying person? Do you find that no matter how hard you try, they just don’t seem to “get it”? You keep looking at them, hoping and praying that they will “get it right”. “They’re doing it wrong! They’re not doing what they’re supposed to do in that situation! Everyone agrees with me!” (Even though I am very persuasive, especially when I’m upset! But that’s not why they agree with me!). Can you step back from your self for just a moment, long enough for you to look with detached eyes? Long enough for you to look and see the whole picture? When you truly attain this state, that person will actually look different. You will notice their mannerisms. You will see the child part of them. You will see the things that drive them to approach life in the way that they do. You will also see the child part of you. You will see the misunderstood expectations you insisted on and will “get it” for yourself, instead of worrying about if they or anyone is doing it “right” or “wrong”. If you practice doing this as much as possible, you will begin to see everyone in this light. This is when true understanding and compassion can occupy your once anger filled Heart.
Perception is the most important tool in your toolbox. All other practices can ebb and flow but perception, this is the one that can bring the greatest amount of clarity…and therefore peace.
~Janice M. Burke
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